If any of you have a prenuptual agreement How did you broach the subject with your spouse? Was there any resistance? Thanks in advance?

Tough issue. Personally, I wouldn't go into a marriage with someone who wanted a pre-nup. And I've been divorced twice! Obviously, I am not so naive as to believe that marriages, even ones that start out deliriously happy, will never end. Things happen. But. I am a fair, reasonable person, even in the face of divorce, and hopefully the man I marry will realize that and not think that I'd ever be out to "screw" him. On the flip side, I wouldn't marry someone I suspected would want to "screw" me if we ever got divorced. Why do you want one?

I have assets to protect. I have accumulated a meaningful amount of assets which I would be unwilling to split x/x. My expectation is that we will remain married "until death we do part" but I'm not naive, either.

Do you really think that, if you two were to divorce, she'd go after the assets that you accumulated before the marriage? If you think that, why would you marry her?

You DON'T have a prenup, then? Please stop bothering to post. Thanks.

Sorry. I didn't answer your question but used it as a point of discussion instead. So did the others - so sue us.

You don't have to be rude.....

Yes, he does... His post wasn't "Do you think I should have a prenup?" He didn't ask for a bunch of stupid assholes to bitch at him about getting one.

show her this post and I bet you don't have to worry about any prenup. Is your biggest asset your asshole?

my biggest asset is my ability to answer a question.

no pre-nup needed for that

his biggest asset is his huge Dumbo ears that uses to fly around and avoid high airfares (see profile pic)

How do you post a pic in a profile, anyway?

put a link to the image with img tags

In dumbed-down language, please? Let's say I have a photo on an on-line website (like shutterfly.com). I should copy the link to the photo, and then . . . ?

here you go, follow top example

like this... [img src="link to picture"] the link to my profile picture looks like this - [img src=""] but you replace the square brackets with angle brackets and you get this -

Wait? OP is a dude and has a male celeb's pic in his profile? Hmmmmmm

Free public forum, Nelli has every right to post here.

Nelli, you have a VERY valid point - just why would you want to marry someone you think will screw you over. That doesn't exactly bode well for the marriage, in my opinion!

I suppose the reasoning is . . . if they don't want to screw you over, then they shouldn't object to a prenup as a simple precaution to protect your assets--particularly if you want them preserved for children of prior unions, for example.

reality i know we're all promarriage here but we're not psychics either.

Nelli, while I applaud your optimism... people change when they get divorced.. The sweetest person can turn into a complete montster.

But would a prenup prevent that? If a person is hell-bent on becoming a monster during a divorce, the person would just raise all sorts of hell about the prenup's validity, etc. That person may not win, but the hell and expenses and turmoil would be the same. And if a person's not entitled to certain things under the terms of a fair, legal prenup, that person probably wouldn't be entitled to it anyway.

No, a prenup may not prevent that but if one person has worked hard and built up a business or savings, etc... they should not lose x/x of what they had before they got married should the wonderful person they married turn into an a hole at the time of divorce.... That's all I am saying. I believe each gets back what they started with and whatever was accumulated during the marriage is split.. but that's in a perfect world.. of course, in a perfect world, there would not be any divorce

a properly drawn-up & reasonable prenup would prevent or minimize any legal battles during a divorce. no, it's not the same.

post this in the legal forum chances are what you acquired before marriage would not be community property anyway. But prenup x is you each need your own lawyer.

consult an attorney. i think that legally assets that you have prior to marriage remain yours if the marriage fails. wealth or things accumulated during marriage, i think are considered shared property. but again, a lawyer could tell you exactly what the pre-nup is and help you decide if it is needed or not.

See a lawyer Only community property is divided during a divorce. Community property refers to assets acquired or income earned while married. Your current assets are and always will be separate property. Prenups are a good idea, especially if you have kids from a former marriage. But since they can be misconstrued, get facts about what's up for grabs. Your fiance will have to have a lawyer negotiate her end. If you're planning to have kids, be prepared for hard bargaining. Kids usually have a great impact on women's earning potential, even though it doesn't seem like it has to be that way before you have them. A good pre-nup lawyer will know that and protect her. Assuming you want to be fair, I urge you to realize that in advance.